My biggest wedding day regrets: what I wish I’d done differently
My husband and I have been married for 7 years now coming up on June 19th this year. We got married in 2010 in Minnesota out at my parents’ beautiful ranch. We DIY’ed most of our wedding to try to save some costs so we could splurge on other parts of our wedding day that were really important to us, mainly our wedding photographer and our honeymoon! We had a stunning day, but some of our choices ended up being my biggest wedding day regrets.
Fun Fact: I literally planned my wedding date around the availability of my wedding photographer, that’s how IMPORTANT my wedding photography was to me! No joke! My mom still to this day will not let me live this down!
Looking back at what I know now about weddings and how to plan them, I definitely would’ve done things differently. There are a few key pieces that I regret doing the way I did when we planned our wedding.
So I decided to write about my biggest wedding day regrets in the hopes of helping other brides, so that you don’t make the same mistakes I did!
My Biggest Wedding Day Regrets + What I Would’ve Done Differently:
- Not hiring a professional wedding videographer.
This is number one on my list of biggest wedding day regrets. Since we didn’t have a big budget to begin with, we asked a couple of family members to video record our wedding day. I’m thankful that they did, but there were a few key moments that were missed or that you can’t really hear in that video, and I really wish we could have them to look back on. Some of those moments were when we read our handwritten vows to each other, when my husband played his guitar and sang me the song that he wrote me, and our first dance together!
Looking back on it now, I really wish we had splurged on hiring a professional wedding videographer to capture those special moments throughout our wedding day! I would love to be able to look back on those beautiful moments, because those memories really matter!
- Not hiring a wedding planner or at least a month of wedding coordinator.
Not hiring a wedding planner or month of wedding coordinator is my second biggest regret. Since we DIY’ed most of our wedding, I didn’t think we needed to have someone there to help us plan and coordinate the actual wedding day, but I was SO SO SO wrong.
My wedding day ended up being hectic and stressful. The morning of my wedding I was still putting the finishing touches on some things, my hair ran late, I was rushed getting ready and didn’t have much time to do my makeup, we had to rush to get photos done, the ceremony music wasn’t coordinated properly, our DJ wasn’t aware that we were ready to do our grand entrance into the reception so there was no music for it, and I had to talk to the venue staff to even get drinks out for my guests + a couple of the meals for the guests who had food allergies. I had a couple bridezilla moments due to all of these things that shouldn’t have happened in the first place.
Had I been smart enough to hire a wedding planner or a month of coordinator, I wouldn’t have had to worry about any of that, which is why it’s one of my biggest wedding day regrets! I wouldn’t have been stressed beyond belief, my mom wouldn’t have been stressed, and I would’ve been able to take some time to just enjoy the moments more throughout the day.
- Not taking more time to step back and savor the moments.
With how rushed our wedding day was due to running behind schedule and having to do quite a bit of it on my own, we didn’t have much time to take a step back to really enjoy the moments throughout the day. I REALLY wish we had.
When people say that your wedding day will go by in the blink of an eye, they’re NOT kidding. So, for all of you brides planning your wedding, make sure to add a little time to your schedule so that you can take a minute together to just SAVOR the moments, because it’ll all be over before you know it and it’s important to give yourself a moment to enjoy it all.
- Not actually taking some time to just go ride horse on my wedding day!
The one dream I had had for my wedding day since I was a little girl was to be able to ride horse on my wedding day. Granted, yes I did get to ride some, but it was mainly just for photos and I wish I had taken the extra time to go on a joy ride with my husband that day, even if it was only for a half an hour. That was something that was important to me and I regret not taking the time to do it.
One thing I’ve learned now is that you need to make time for the things that matter the most to you! So TAKE some time to do the things you want to do on your wedding day – what seems like a small sacrifice now might just end up being one of your biggest wedding day regrets.
- Not taking more time to find my wedding dress.
Don’t get me wrong, I loved my wedding dress! But in my excitement to plan my wedding and to FINALLY be able to go dress shopping with my mom and sister, I rushed into making an impulse buy on my wedding dress instead of taking more time to find the dress that I REALLY REALLY loved + one that was more flattering for my body type. I know now that with my wide shoulders, strapless dresses aren’t the best thing for me to wear and I wish I had taken more time to find the perfect dress for my body type.
- Not doing our research for our DJ.
We hired a family friend to DJ for us and it really is one of my biggest wedding day regrets. He’s a great guy but he messed up the night of our wedding quite a bit. We ended up not having a song to do our grand entrance into the reception to like we had planned. It was a bit awkward walking in to no music, he cut our first dance song in half (this irritated me the most), and he played oldies and music that nobody wanted to dance to the entire night instead of playing music that actually got people out on the dance floor to have fun + enjoy themselves.
Knowing what I know now, I would’ve found someone who was more experienced and played music that people wanted to dance to.
- Not having real florals for our wedding.
Since we DIY’ed our wedding, we opted to have fake flowers for our entire wedding to cut back on costs. Looking back on this, I wish we’d had real florals for our wedding day. It would’ve cut down on the stress of spending so much time trying to find the flowers to begin with, and we wouldn’t have had to spend SO much time hand making everything!
Knowing what I know now, I wouldn’t have worried about wanting to keep my bouquet after my wedding and I would’ve gotten real flowers instead.
- Not doing a trial run for my hair or getting my makeup professionally done.
At the time of our wedding, we lived in a very small town, so there’s weren’t too many hair salons to choose from to have hair and makeup done on the wedding day. Having worked with a salon I’d gone to in the past, I chose not to do a hair trial before my wedding day and I really wish I had. My hair ended up losing a lot of the curls an hour into the day.
I also wished I had gotten my makeup professionally done. At the time I didn’t know a THING about makeup, but now I wish I’d actually had it done by someone who did know what they were doing so that my entire look was flawless. Plus, having your makeup professionally done means it’s so much better for the photos too!
Even though there are some things that I would’ve changed on my wedding day, it was still one of the most beautiful and most perfect days of my life! What matters the most is that I got to marry the love of my life and my best friend. THAT’S what’s most important, and being able to have these beautiful photos to remember one of the best days of our lives by was our best investment!
So my advice to you – no matter what your budget is, focus on what matters the most: EACH OTHER! Focus on your marriage, being the best you can be for each other, being there to support each other no matter what, and loving each other with your whole hearts through thick and thin! Your relationships and your memories are the two most important things in life.
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